It was later revealed that the wedding invite was fake.
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Who has to pay for a wedding?
Traditionally, it is the responsibility of the newlywed couple.
For this reason, a recent wedding invite went viral stating that guests need to pay RM50 per person to attend.
The invite says the wedding will occur on 25 December 2022 between a couple known as Haslan and Baiti.
The guest had to top more money, such as RM50 for a buffet meal, RM20 for a photo with the bride and groom, and RM5 to sing two songs.
Guests can enjoy a 50% discount if they bring gifts for the newlyweds.
Confuse juga ini jemputan perkahwinan ke pameran? pic.twitter.com/PPzpz4RVKJ— نقيّ (@naqyaaa) July 12, 2022
Food For Thought
Later, it was revealed that the wedding invite wasn’t real, and the actual posting had been removed following complaints.
The verification was made with people working at the said venue, a hotel in Penang.
Ok guys saya dah tanya kenalan saya yang bekerja di The Light Hotel.— Mohamad Farid Yusoff (@adek_farid) July 13, 2022
Ianya adalah palsu. pic.twitter.com/QthHCjUXJD
Nevertheless, it still raised much debate among netizens.
Some pointed out that giving ang pow is standard practice for Chinese wedding dinners.
Others said the wedding invite reminded them of a popular Asian budget airline known for its selection of prebook add-ons.
Art Imitating Life
Interestingly, the fake wedding invite addresses real-life situations that are common.
Some netizens even agreed it would be a good idea for Malay couples to start charging their wedding guests in one way or the other.
The reason is that in Malay culture, wedding guests are not obliged to contribute to the expenses.
Like weddings in other cultures, it is a contentious subject discussed on social media.
Netizens said guests would give as little as RM10, which meant a heavy financial burden for the newlyweds.
Coincidentally, many caterers offer banquet packages from as cheap as RM10 per head.
Even then, the bill could be hefty as the hosts are generally expected to invite a huge crowd.
Pengalaman kawan2. Duit nak pakai kahwin sekarang kalau majlis sederhana lebih kurang RM24,000 untuk lelaki.— ferdous shariff (@syurgamaqwa) August 14, 2019
1. RM10,000 duit hantaran
2. RM4,000 mas kahwin, barang kemas dan barang hantaran
3. RM10,000 duit kenduri amik yang pakej 1 kepala RM9.90 (invite 1000 orang)
Gemok bercerita perihal kenduri kahwin anak jiran dia.— 🏴 كو إخوان (@_Ikhwxn_) October 4, 2019
“Katering dia je dah rm8000. Bapak mahal. Jemputan kad 500. Belum whatsaap,mulut lagi. Akak dulu katering rm6000 je. (Anak dia dah darjah 4). Kau carilah katering yang rm10 satu kepalakan. Takpon paling koman rm11,rm12 ke”
Others noted that it’s also quite common for wedding guests, especially the aunties, to hog the karaoke.
Some said this is more common among weddings held in rural areas.
Makcik makcik macam ni paling suka kalau pergi kenduri kahwin ada karaoke. Orang lain nyanyi 1 lagu yang dia boleh bantai sampai 3 lagu. mak mertua dengan pak mertua sekali dia angkut pergi kenduri lepas tu salam tuan rumah bagi rm10. https://t.co/S15vex5Nay— I’m from kodiang you know (@belialrising) July 25, 2021
The intention is to announce that the couple is married, to avoid ‘fitnah’ among family, friends, neighbours and friends.Professional matchmaker Zuhri Yuhyi on the obligation to do a wedding ceremony.
He stressed that the wedding must be in moderation and affordability, in line with Islamic values.